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>> i watched it like 30 times already. this is not the only goat center in the news lately. in australia, gary the goat was exonerated in court. the owner was charged with vandalism after he grazed in a flower bed outside a city museum. who can forget this goat. we told you about him a few months ago after he knocked a paper boy off his bike and chased him up a tree. we also think he might be possessed. >> it made a weird noise, like a grunting noise. >> let's think about this now. we've got goats knocking paperboys off boats, knocking reporters off their feet, i'm starting to wonder if the goats are trying to take over. i know for a fact this one has taken over youtube. >> ah! >> now, i don't know which i like better, when the goat screams or when that reporter screams. if only we could see them side by side. oh, we can.
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look. >> would you not eat my pants? >> ah! >> nothing like ending a long week by repeatedly watching someone getting knocked over by a goat and hearing a goat scream. have a good weekend, everybody. and watch your backs. that's it for us. >> life-not about me, it's about we. >> the secret to success. >> add more value than anybody else does and you'll have a chance to win. >> happiness is not here every moment. happiness isn't all it's cracked up to be. >> and keeping america great. >> our celebration of innovation and enterprise, our hard work and responsibility, these are constants in our character. >> we used to be able to have a dialogue, and today it's you're right, you're wrong.
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>> people you never forget. the moment you were shot. what goes through your mind? >> you've just got to get away. >> i went to combat four times. but i count my life as my fifth combat. >> i haven't found any place where the human spirit is limited. for the hour, this is peers morgan tonight. good evening. president obama sworn in for a second term. america facing the next four years with great promise and much uncertainty. a tough time in the nation with a struggling economy, hurricane sandy and the tragedy in newtown. for answers and hope, teddy robbins gives us both of those things. he's changed lives around the world. now he has a message for you and america. he's brought a special guest with him. welcome back. >> thank you for having me back. >> i can't think of a better guy, really, to have here. i get a feeling it's a really overriding feeling. america is hurting right now.
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america feels vulnerable, fearful, and you see this because of the gun crisis. >> yes. >> you see it because of the financial crisis. there's just a crisis of confidence generally amongst americans. do you feel that? and what is the answer? >> well, there's no single answer. you can't change the world overnight, but you can change yourself. i think the biggest challenge we face is we're not just missing our confidence because we're out of control. we're missing our confidence because we need to retool. the world has changed. most people say you have to deal with change. change is automatic. progress is not. if you want to make progress, you and i have to develop more than self-confidence. we have to have self-discipline and self-control. we're part of a culture that taught us to build up your kids' self-esteem. you can't get self-esteem from somebody else. you have to earn it from yourself. self-esteem is from yourself. you only get that by pushing yourself to do things that are incredibly difficult. when you have discipline and self-control and a sense of
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confidence or certainty, that's when people change their lives. our country has had a series of events that has produced enormous uncertainty. we need to retool, not just get more confident. >> some of the great periods in american history have followed extremely bad periods, post-the second world war. rebuilding america in spectacular fashion. this isn't the worst time america's been through, not by a long way. i think the perspective has to be brought into this, right? >> it's perspective, but also understanding there are seasons. every season gets different benefits and different pains or problems. if you were born in 1910, by the time you were 19 years old, it was 1929. as you were coming of age, people were jumping out of buildings. by you were 29, 1929, it looked like the world was going to end with hitler coming back. people developed emotional muscle. not just intelligence, but a readiness that a lot of them changed the world.
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i think this is our season for development. that's not just being positive, it's just saying, here's the truth. trauma either destroys you or drives you. we have to make the choice. >> let's listen to something president obama said in his inauguration speech this week. >> a decade of war is now ending. an economic recovery has begun. america's possibilities are limitless. for we possess all the qualities that this world without boundaries demands. youth and drive, diversity and openness, an endless capacity for risk, and a gift for reinvention. my fellow americans, we are made for this moment. and we will seize it, so long as we seize it together. >> the president there sounding upbeat. acknowledging it's been a tough time. there are challenges obviously ahead.
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how is he doing do you think? a lot of this comes from the leader in terms of the spirit of the country. in terms of its ability to resurge, if you like. is obama the right man? do you like what you see for maybe the second term obama already? >> i love the man. i voted for him originally. i actually went to a meeting with 18 of the top executives, the guys that started google. and in the meeting, everybody was a big supporter. i said, mr. president, i love your heart. i absolutely believe in your intelligence. i know you care. i voted for you the first time but i said i would love to know how it's going to be different when there's such demonization going on. i think that's the significant problem in our country. it's not one person. we used to be able to have a dialogue. today it's you're right, you're wrong. that process happens in the gun debate, it's happening everywhere in this country. i had a conversation with him and said, listen, if you think the solution that you're telling me you're going to do in your next term is you're going to raise taxes on the wealthy, i'm
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more than willing to pay that. i'm supportive of that. but that will raise $80 billion. even less now because they cut it from 250 as the cutoff. that will run the country for eight days. $10.4 billion a day. that's not even going to scratch the $1.1 trillion. what else are we going to do? he said i think what will happen is the republicans will have a kick-around and we'll start working together. there's no chance of coming up with an intelligent compromise. the president afterwards, he said, i think this is enough of this conversation. he said tony has given us creative tension and he pulled me aside and said, come to the white house and we'll talk about this. we have to have a unifying message. we're missing that right now. >> as you say, something's changed in america. now there are many rivals for that position. that will increase over the next few decades. america has to respond. it can't respond perhaps in the
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way it would have done 50 years ago. >> the president has his hands full, to be fair. he talked about the worst day of his presidency with sandy hook. but you're right, there needs to be unifying vision. someone is saying, kennedy, we're going to go to space, or have this war on poverty. right now our goals are to pay our bills. it's hard to get people to find a way to power themselves when what they're aspiring to is depressing. that's not just the president's fault, it's true, the leadership of our country has to say, here's where we're going to go. we can pay our bills and we're going to be okay. to be fair to the president, i think when you see tears in his eyes, it's about the issue of there being a future for young people for the next generation. >> tell me this. what is this future going to be in terms of america incorporated as a business model? because a lot of the things that america used to be great for, manufacturing, for example,
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they've changed so dramatically and become so global, you can't really go back and do that again. even if you have the money to do it. america needs to find other business models, doesn't it. >> it is. it's in the middle of it. we're in the middle of that process. in manufacturing, there's been growth primarily because we found the new technologies to bring us energy. we have more natural gas than saudi arabia has oil. people are coming back here because it's cheaper to do business in america. i think what's more important is the average american. the average american, if we're sitting and waiting for the government to come up with the answer for us, the president to come up with a vision, you'll have a problem. if you've been on unemployment for 12 million americans, those jobs probably aren't coming back. it's time to retool and say where is the next opportunity, is it in health care, is it in green. where am i going to get the skills. the government is going to step up and say here's a pathway. you've got to find it yourself. >> we've seen apple and starbucks make a turn in the
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water. >> you talked about that the last time i was on. >> apple has since then done so. it was a start. but it's about the principle, really, of great american companies in the tech world. they lead the world. but a lot of the stuff's outsourced outside of america. that doesn't really help the american jobs market, even though by being successful companies they do in that way. >> yes. i think you've got to look at it in the context, talking about looking back through history. if you and i were having this discussion 100 years ago, 40% of americans were farmers. now it's just 2%. we don't just feed america, we feed the world. it's a chance for us to take those resources and redeploy them. what's missing is the leadership saying here's where you've got to go. i donated 1 million meals last year. my foundation, 4 million meals. if you take people for two years and take care of them and don't give them new skills, they lose confidence. they lose certainty. and i find that they're going to
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become institutionalized and not be a part of the new future. i think our job is to say here are the tools to get you to the next level of your life, so you can create the new american revolution. >> when you talk about this transformation, the post-traumatic stress in all its guises to post-draw traumatic growth, what do you mean? >> most people know about post-traumatic stress, and it severely affects them for the rest of their life, they can't sleep, nightmares. but there are people who have gone through the exact same trauma and they found in themselves the drive where they're no longer broken and they heal. there's three things people find. if you make it to the growth side, where you're expanding and able to deal with it, the number one thing is you find out you're bigger than any of that. you find out who your real friends are. not your facebook friends, your
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friends who show up, and those relationships, they deepen. the third thing is, it's almost like you have antibodies. what people do is they decide, i won't be beaten by this. they draw a line in the sand and go, i know if i continue down this road, my life's over. they make that decision. what they do is find something bigger than themself to go after, a mission. a woman loses her family member to drunk driving, she started madd, for example. she's making that shift. she has a mission larger than herself. they start stacking the small victories. out of that they get emotional muss am and they're able to help other people. >> does it apply to any other form of trauma, or are there grades of trauma? >> i've seen it happen with people who have lost their children, i've seen it with people who have witnessed the death of people around them, people have lost limbs. i haven't found any place where the human spirit is limited. >> i want to bring out a survivor of a high school shooting.
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>> i don't know. he went to the cafeteria and everybody started running. >> that was a chilling 911 call from last february's deadly high school shooting. a 17-year-old opened fire killing three students and wounding three others. tony robbins is my special guest of the hour. welcome to you both. >> thank you. >> i remember this happening. another outrage involving guns in america. let me start with you, nick, if i may. you were shot four times. you were paralyzed after what happened. you're in a wheelchair now. the moment that you were shot, what goes through your mind? >> what i really -- what was going through my mind was i had to get out of the high school. and really, nothing else flows through your mind. you've just got to get away. you don't have time to think about anything else. >> you were a fit, young
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sports-loving boy at school, suddenly you're in a wheelchair. the moment of realization for you when you know that that is going to be certainly for the foreseeable future, your new life, it must be a crushing thing to have to deal with. how did you deal with it? >> i had a lot of support. the community, my friends, and my family. probably the best thing that i could ever ask for. >> did you despair? >> i mean, i did, yeah. i did. but like i said, the community, friends and family did help me out. and they helped me not be so upset about what really happened. i've just got to move on. >> nick, i'm curious, was there a stage where some part of you just realized if i stay in this place of pain, it will be for the rest of my life, and then you made a decision to change?
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or what do you think helped you to start to make the shift besides your family? what was it that they did that helped you? >> well, i had a lot of support from other people texting me and calling me that are in wheelchairs. and one of them's scott hasel. he's in a while chair. a great guy. he answers any question i have. >> was he involved in the shooting at all is this. >> no. he was in a diving accident. >> he was able to talk you through, i guess, the psychological journey you were going to go on. >> right. >> because he's been there. >> yeah. because he's paralyzed, too. he knows exactly what i went through. people will tell me, you know, yeah, i know. if i tell them it's hard for me, they'll be like, yeah, i know. >> but they don't know. >> you don't know.
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>> somebody who's been paralyzed, and let me come to you, this is every mother's nightmare. this is your son. he's 17, as he was at the time. and suddenly his whole life changes. i guess your first feeling is, thank god he's alive. and then you have to deal with the fact that he's paralyzed. what was it like for you as his mother? >> it really didn't happen that way. it was -- i think it was just denial at first. i said, nick was shot. then somebody said, oh, he was shot through the shoulder. you know, you're like, okay, what happened? what is going on? you see it all over the news. and then when i got to the hospital it was a lot different. it was like, wow, this is my son. and i just remember him looking at me and he said, mom, i can't feel my legs. and that was one of the hardest things to hear in your whole life, you know. >> what is the prognosis, nick?
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>> they said that they were cautiously optimistic when they came out of surgery. so we're still hoping and praying. you never know. >> tony, it's interesting, listening to nick there, that for all the love and support you can get from family, obviously led by holly, but many friends, family, texting and all that, that's helpful. >> yes. >> in making you feel a little bit better. but actually, there's really the words for me, a young man who's been through a similar thing. is that something you should look for? a particular support group, knows exactly what you've been through. >> it's somebody who's been through it, but has an outlook that looks positive. all human beings when we go through trauma, what gets us through today is if we have a promising tomorrow. tomorrow may not be that i'm able to run, but tomorrow is, i can have a beautiful relationship, i can become a person who has impact. that's the number one thing. something that makes you say, there's something i value more than my today pain.
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and it's a tomorrow that i want to create for myself. he has that. you can see it in his eyes. we talked about it beforehand. the second thing that usually gets people through this, and i say through it, have a quality of life still. there are people who have all the use of their limbs and have a horrible life. they live in pain and frustration. and there have been people through hell on earth and they have promising lives. if managing your own thoughts and self-discipline and self-control, but it's also having a mission bigger than yourself. since you've been helped, i talk about each one teach one, i wonder if you would go with me to the families of sandy hook and do what you did. you're already doing unbelievably well. i had a chance to meet you backstage. i think you could go to another level. what do you think of that? >> i would love that. >> let's do it together. shake on it? >> he came to me a few days after the tragedy at sandy hook and said that me and some of my
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friends want to go there. we want to talk to them and tell them how it feels, you know, that you're going to be angry, you're going to be sad. every day is going to be so different. >> yes. >> and it will come back. then it will go away. >> there are two traumatic situations. one is being paralyzed. the other one is actually having been shot in a massacre situation, which is really the stuff of nightmares. i suppose my question for you is, how hard is it for you? you seem such a calm, confident young man, despite what's happened to you. how hard is it when other shootings happen, and you hear or read about it? does that bring it all back? >> yeah. it brings me a little confusion, too. like i just don't understand why all this happens. this isn't what america was made for. you know, it's just sad. it's really sad.
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>> what can really make the difference is things happen in life, and when they're meaningless, the pain never goes away. i have the use of my life, but people who have dealt with your situation is when they can find, because this happened, i can make something else better for another human being. that's when there's a positive meaning. you don't wish it on anybody. but only people who have gone through spiritual pain have the spiritual strength to heal other people. i don't mean it in a religious experience. you have that power, because you made that shift in yourself. this can be the beginning of that journey. >> what ambitions do you have? has it changed your outlook? do you have particular goals now? obviously one would be to get out of the wheelchair. but aside from that. have you set things for yourself that you want to achieve? >> well, obviously i had to switch around my career a little bit. that i was aiming for. but i really just want a good career.
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>> what would you want to be? >> i wanted to be just an electrician, in the union. i don't believe that can happen practically right now. so i'm actually taking an auburn class, which is an alternative study class for any electrical components. i'm going to switch to small electronics instead. >> good for you. >> i'll see what i can do with that. >> same kind of thing, just a different way of doing it. >> right. >> which is adapting to what's happened to you. nick, holly, thank you so much for coming in. it's an awful story, but inspiring story. i think your attitude is absolutely the right one. i think it's right, go to sandy hook and help there. it's a great example of how you give back and get on with things. thank you very much. >> thank you. >> when we come back, tony and i will talk to a former marine about the post-traumatic battles he's faced in afghanistan and other war zones, and now
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i've been to combat five times. see what i've seen. the death, the funerals, been around a binch of explosions. i have light sensitivity, and ptsd. i've been through so much trauma. >> here on the front lines, speaking out about his troubled journey back from war, casey wilson. served in afghanistan, kosovo and iraq. he has ptsd something many war heroes suffer from. it's powerful and moving address you gave there. you can see the physical effects. you were shaking and you've clearly been through all sorts of trauma, in different ways. before you met tony, what was your life like? >> i was doing a lot of current therapy, you know, psychiatry, psychology, which i started in
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2011. 2010, i started doing -- trying to figure out my life, because i went through a second divorce. and so i didn't understand the whole process, why was i feeling this way. so i started to seek treatment at that time. i was going to acupuncture, healing touch, meditation. >> did it help, any of that? >> yes. it was helping to an extent, you know. like i said, i was just 20-plus years in the marine corps. i had severe trauma at a child which i didn't realize was a problem until, you know, i just added more stuff after more stuff in my life. >> tell them what the sim tms were at the time. >> basically, insomnia. i sleep probably four or five hours a night. but i would wake up probably every 45 minutes to every hour. you know, i had severe tremors.
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i was -- before i knew of my light sensitivity, i always had headaches and migraines. i would have to go into dark rooms, take a nap. and, you know, i would just be breaking down myself in a sense. >> what was the rock bottom moment for you? >> the rock bottom moment for me, in a sense, was -- it was after my second divorce. just being -- i pushed so many people away. i couldn't figure out why i felt this way. i deployed eight times. you know, i went to combat four times, but i count my life as my fifth combat. you know, the deployment. i've been fighting myself prior to -- in my younger age, until my age i am, 39 years old, when i went to date with destiny september 1st, where i needed to get a little bit of motivation, because here i am about to
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retire from the marine corps. >> tony, there are tens of thousands of american service men and women who go through similar trauma. it's been a terrible period for the american military. constantly in combat in various countries. what do you say in that situation? >> it isn't just saying. we've done this with hundreds of wounded warriors and different soldiers. inside every human being, we have trauma. his was extreme trauma. there's a personality in him that was beyond wounded. but inside of everyone, there's a part of you that's whole and strong. that's truly untouched by the experience. so he was trying to express his pain. i felt that. then i got him to connect to a part of himself that is whole. this part you can see on camera, we gave it a name. the name was tigger. when he changed to that kind of personality, his glasses came off, he was able to see without the headaches. he stopped tremoring. he had been shaking like this for hours. all that stopped literally in minutes. an hour later he was on stage
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with a group of, about 2,500 people from 80 countries rocking them, sharing his mission for his life. he found something greater than his pain. he found something he wanted to serve, like he served for his country. now it's to serve other people. >> is that a regular people for people coming out of combat zones, i have military people in my family, even when they're home, they get listless and restless, and start to feel strange, just not being where they're used to being, in that dangerous environment. >> we don't know how to open up, or express our -- tell our story either. that's also part of the problem. and the other part, too, as well, is being accepted in society. you know, because there's a brotherhood in the services around the world. and we have a problem when we come out of the service, you know, to the civilian world where people will judge us and use -- if they find out about
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our trauma, in one way or another, will use that against us. there is no brotherhood that i would say in a civilian community. >> when you see people who have gone through, what my previous guest went through, a school shooting, a young man and all the trauma that's happened to him. what do you think of that? what advice would you give him? >> basically he has to take back his life. finding forgiveness, you know, it's more finding forgiveness for himself so he can find peace in his life. he has so much potential that he's able to basically be able to impact and change so many people's lives. >> tony, is that a regular thing, too, if you feel too angry and bitter about what's happened to you, that's a huge barrier to being able to get through it? >> it's not just a barrier to get through it, science shows five minutes of rage, you certainly have the right to have, and what he's been through in his life, will shut down literally your immune system for four hours.
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what successful people do is they stack victories. that's also what we did with him. we said there's a different set of rules. you can't come as a marine, you've got to come as a guy who was whole. what was it like before. when he tapped into the playful guy who has this jump in his step and is laughing, that's when the glasses came off and he said i want people to see my baby blues. people were cheering. he felt people at the human level. it's also having something you value more than your pain. he values mission. he values being able to make a difference. he has a new mission back here at home. >> good for you. thank you for your service. >> thank you. >> which is still actually ongoing. more importantly, it was your life in the combat you made, extraordinary to see. >> thank you. >> good to see. a man who lost everything, and is now worth $50 million. we'll find out how he did it, coming up next. with the spark cash card from capital one,
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i'm here with tony robbins. millions of americans are still out of work. my next guest knows exactly how they feel. mike is a business owner who
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lost everything in 2008. i mean everything. now he's overcome that financial ruin and runs two businesses with revenues worth $50 million. congratulations. >> thank you. >> it's been a roller coaster ride. you've known tony for 17 years. and you've been up and down in that period of time. >> correct. >> tell me quickly the journey you've been on. >> i started off coming from a very challenging background, single mother, raised by a single mother. had no education. and really, no hope. and what i always say, i was lucky that i was put in front of an icon of empowerment. >> he is. every time i interview him, i feel empowered. >> that's true. what he is is an incredible educator. by the grace of the universe i was able to fall in the lap of this educator. he helped get me out of that place where i was, where there was no home. >> he was homeless at the time. what i love about mike's story, is mike just didn't help himself, he started a small
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business to start with. one of the young women who worked for him was addicted to meth. how did you end up in your new business? >> the young woman had come to work for me a number of years ago. you could tell something was wrong. she was addicted to methamphetamine. she was completely off drugs in a few days. it ournd out her father, her dad was incredibly successful in the metal recycling business. i got a call from him shortly thereafter who said anybody who has influence over human beings like this needs to help. he taught me the business. seven months later he allowed me to buy him out. years later, i continued to grow and grow and grow. >> amazing. >> until 2008. >> you built up this $13 million business. and then you literally almost lost it overnight in the big crash of '08. >> it was interesting. four months before the crash, tony calls me and says, mike,
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you need to prepare. and as everyone in the country kept saying, we're strong. the economists are saying, we're strong. i didn't listen to him. i should have listened to him. >> why wouldn't you listen to tony robbins? >> things were going great. >> that was mainly thanks to him. >> i know. that's true. overnight, as you know, the economy collapses. the metal business completely collapses. >> when that happened to you, and having gone from literally nothing, you were a homeless guy to $13 million business, and then it all disappears, what was that like for you? >> i didn't care about losing the material possessions. i had a 3-year-old son at the time. he's now 7. the only thing that was going through my mind was, how do i face my son. from the day he came home from the hospital, i was determined he was not going to grow up in the same environment that i did. and all i wanted to do is have my little boy sit on my lap when he was old enough and say, you know what, there's nothing you can't do. you can become anything. i don't want my boy to look up at me and say, daddy, if that's
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true, why haven't you done it. that was what was crushing my heart. i just could not fail. and come up with an excuse for this little boy. >> tony, can anybody be like this? or do you have to have a little bit of ferocity of spirit? >> i think ferocity of spirit is critical for everybody. but we all have it. >> do we all have it? >> sure we do. but courage unused becomes weaker. passion unexpressed gets smaller. like any muscle, the more you use it. he's been using it for years. his son, here's the other thing, he had a reason larger than himself. at the time he said he was worried about his employees and he really cares about his people. but you have to make that shift or it's no longer an excuse. if you give yourself an excuse, humans will take it. he burned the boats and said i'll find the answer. he shifted to psychology and got the skills. like i said earlier, it's not just confidence. you have to have skill.
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he has both. tell them what you did. >> after that particular business mastering program, as tony said, 80% of it is psychology, and 20% of it is mechanics, or the strategies. unless you get the psychology down, the mechanics don't matter. i can tell you, from that day in november of 2008, where i made that decision, that i was not going to fail, and i kissed my lady and said, i'm going back to work, and we went out there and i learned how to export. and when there was no market for steel in the united states, i was able to export to several different countries. and we took off from there. we continued to grow. and it was just, again, about a mind-set. it's about having a level of pride. for me, it was coming from where i come from, the name didn't mean a whole heck of a lot. i was determined to change that. it's something i call generational influence. i'm doing this for my son, not for me. >> is that good advice, tony? there are millions and millions
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of americans out of work. many suffering very hurt pride. and real financial hardship. is that a good focus to look at children, to look at other things and say, you know what, stop feeling sorry for myself, it's for him, for her, for that. >> most of the -- i think what's beautiful about most human beings is we'll do more for people we love than ourselves. if you just try to do something for yourself, you only get a certain level of pride inside. if you do it for others, it comes to a level of insight. mike got the belief out of business mastery that money is still changing hands. i need to see how to get that. how do i add value and where is that value available. >> what do you say to the people suffering in america right now? >> tony is absolutely right. we need to take the focus off of ourselves and stop feeling sorry about ourselves. it's about serving humanity, about serving people. it's all about service. and we have just got to get out there. tony talked about earlier about retooling.
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it's about learning new skills. when i talked about finding an icon of empowerment, whether it's anthony robbins, whether it's someone like oprah winfrey, a school or university, you need to get in there and learn the new skills. then you've got to get out there and you've got to perform by serving. serving humanity. it isn't about me, it isn't about me making money or dollar amount, it's about protecting the people that i love, the people that i care about. if you follow that formula, you cannot fail. >> bitterness and anger and resentment, self-pity is also a complete waste of time and energy. it's perfectly understandable. all of those emotions are just barriers to getting back on your feet, aren't they? >> that's correct. all emotions serve. anger, frustration, it's all valuable, but not if you live there. all those emotions that create pain, they're designed to get you to change, to do something. if you just sit and live in the emotion, and you don't do anything, the pain just gets deeper and it becomes your groove and your grave. if you shift those emotional
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stages, which we teach people to do, physically, not fake positive thinking, but with a real strategy, a real action plan, that's all business is, add more value than anybody else does and you'll have a chance to win. that's what he's done. >> great story. mike, good to meet you. >> my pleasure. >> tony gives you five ways to immediately change your life. with the spark cash card from capital one, sven gets great rewards for his small business! how does this thing work? oh, i like it! [ garth ] sven's small business earns 2% cash back on every purchase, every day! woo-hoo!!! so that's ten security gators, right? put them on my spark card! why settle for less? testing hot tar... great businesses deserve great rewards! [ male announcer ] the spark business card from capital one.
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back now with special guest tony robbins. it's been a fascinating hour to meet people from very different experiences. common things is they've all had knocks in their lives of different degrees which cause a lot of emotions. it's how you deal with those emotions. you've got a five-point plan anyone can follow to get over stress and trauma in their lives. walk me through it. >> the quality of your life is the quality of where you live emotional. angry people find a way to be angry. sad people find a way to be sad. caring people find a way to be caring for other people. one thing to identify is what's your home, what's your habit. then the way to change it -- when i was homeless on my own just getting started i decided i had to go to a library and feed my mind.
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weeds grow automatically. one teach i said stand at the guard door i don't have our mind and feed it. if your best friend by accident puts some poison in, you're dead. if you feed your mind every day. second strengthen your body. fear is physical. right? so is stagnation, numbness, rage. when you change your body by an intense workout or run or walk, science shows it instantly changes your biochemistry. third thing all these people in common, they found a mission bigger than themselves. something they want to aspire to more than their pan. then you've got to find a role model. you heard it with nick. almost everybody finds a role model that makes it real. i was with warren buffett and sarah blakely.
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when women meet her, they don't just love spanx, her product. they love her because she's a role model of what's possible. if you get a goal plan and take massive action, it's real. the last step, there's always more worse off than you are i don't care what you've done. if you can help somebody worse off, it puts your life in perspective. it's not about me, it's about we. the secret to a great life is giving. when you realize there's something still to give even if you lost your legs and have been through a horrific financial situation, your life can improve. but more importantly you'll have a meaningful life. >> you're a fabulously successful, rich, famous, super fit, good looking guy. >> you sound like you're describing yourself. >> not quite on the same fitness levels. if you can have any one thing -- you can have money, good health, the fame that allows you to inspire people.
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what would you choose as the one thing? >> certainly i think without health you're not able to do anything. but i think it's a life of meaning. i know it is. feeling like your life matters. because you have the experience. you and i both have friends who've achieved everything they dreamed of and are miserable. they're missing a meaningful life. meaning comes from two things. happiness comes from progress. if you can do something where you're growing and because you have grown you have something to give to other people that is meaningful, insight, love, caring, something. then life is rich. happiness comes and goes. it isn't all it's cracked up to be. meaning is. i met a woman who was 109 years old and was in the holocaust, that woman's life is so rich because of all the pain she's used that to help other people. she does the things that makes she has a full life.
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>> please come back soon. >> thank you very much. >> tony robbins. and we'll be right back. with the spark cash card from capital one, olaf gets great rewards for his small business! pizza! [ garth ] olaf's small business earns 2% cash back on every purchase, every day! helium delivery. put it on my spark card! [ pop! ] [ garth ] why settle for less? great businesses deserve great rewards! awesome!!! [ male announcer ] the spark business card from capital one. choose unlimited rewards with 2% cash back or double miles on every purchase, every day! what's in your wallet?
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and his new boss told him two things -- cook what you love, and save your money. joe doesn't know it yet, but he'll work his way up from busser to waiter to chef before opening a restaurant specializing in fish and game from the great northwest. he'll start investing early, he'll find some good people to help guide him, and he'll set money aside from his first day of work to his last, which isn't rocket science. it's just common sense. from td ameritrade.
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